Write wills, your children’s peace depends on it

DAR ES SALAAM: IN many African societies and indeed, many families around the world talking about death or inheritance is treated as taboo. To be exact, parents avoid writing wills, assuming it is either too early or too ominous to discuss such matters. Unfortunately, this silence often becomes the breeding ground for family disputes, broken relationships and legal battles once the inevitable happens.

When it comes to the reality on the ground, it is time we changed this narrative. Parents must be advised, clearly and respectfully: Writing a will is not a sign of inviting death. It is an act of responsibility, foresight and love. A written will communicates a parent’s wishes regarding their property and ensures that the children left behind are not only provided for, but are also united in peace, rather than torn apart by uncertainty.

Imagine a family where, upon the passing of a parent, siblings are left guessing who should take what. One child may believe they deserve more because they lived closer and cared for the parent. Another may think they are entitled to everything because of seniority. Without a clear will, emotion takes over logic and families fall apart.

A will, on the other hand, is a simple yet powerful document. It protects children, provides direction and avoids lengthy legal conflicts. It also helps prevent opportunistic relatives or third parties from taking advantage of grieving families.

Sharing the contents of a will with your children while you are alive also clears the air early. It prepares them emotionally and mentally. It gives them a chance to ask questions, seek clarification and understand your reasoning. That transparency builds trust and ultimately, unity.

But beyond wills, we must shift how we define inheritance. Many parents strive to leave behind kiosks, small plots of land or struggling businesses for their children. While well-intentioned, this type of legacy without proper preparation can be more of a burden than a blessing. A business, however small or successful, may not survive if your children don’t have the skills, interest or training to run it.

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If you want to truly secure your children’s future, prioritise education. Invest in their minds. A degree, a technical skill or even basic financial literacy can outlast any kiosk or business. It gives them options. It gives them independence. It prepares them to adapt in a world that is rapidly changing.

Inheritances should not just be about things; it should be about capacity. For that matter, parents: Write your will. Share it. Explain it. And above all, equip your children to thrive with or without it. Let us bury the taboo not our peace.